Mommy has a VAJ-J!

Well, the saga had continued until this last Wednesday evening with Ellis and his fascination with the opposite sex. Upon my arrival, Ellis came storming out of his room to give me what I thought was going to be his standard greeting. It usually goes something like this..."Mommmyyyyyy....your home. I sure missed you today". Sometimes I will even get "how was your day"? But not this night.He had a much better greeting!

He came running out of his room and I was greeted with " Mooommmyyyy...can I see your pee pee"? WOW~ My response was "go talk to your Dad"...Now some of you may think that is a cheap way of getting out of the talk and sure maybe I need therapy over the fact that I have a hard time with saying the word penis. However, I like to think of it as delegation to the appropriate parent with the most experience in this area. And that would be Pete. He grew up in a household of "free to be you and me". Me...well, I didn't even know that boys were different then girls until I was about 13. Maybe it was 12. And BOY did that gross me out. Ok....lets back on track.

Needless, to say in the end I WAS the one that broke out the story books to read with Ellis while Pete was on the computer I am sure laughing at the whole situation. We read our books, discussed what he wanted to call it. He likes the term pee pee which I think is great. The book brought up quite a few things of interest. One, is it talked about how everyone has a bum, well the book said anus. Again, another term that is just weird. In our house we call it bungus. I believe we got that term from one of Pete's old friends. We talked about how we all have a bungus and we sit on our bungus. Immediately, my very observant son states and FOR POOPING OUT OF!! Yes, son it is for pooping out of.

The book refered to little girls as having Vulvas. And of course as any good mother would do...I just read straight out of the book word for word...hoping there would not be to many questions afterwards. When we were done reading Ellis went and said "Dad...mommmy has a Vulva". Well, guess what folks Pete has a hang up with words too. Yes..I feel somewhat normal out of all this. After Ellis had a conversation with his Dad, he came and found me and said "Mommy..you don't have a VULVA...you have a VAJ-J".

Of course at this time, I could no longer hold in my laughs. As you all know Ellis has about 101 facial expressions to go with every statement he makes. There is something to be learned by all of us here. One, Ellis is learning about girls. Two, I am learning how to get over my hangups. Third, who cares if you call it a penis, hotdog, turtle or a pee pee. As long as you have the talk, you are being a good parent. We had the talk and I feel good about it. After the talk he was not shy or devestated in anyway. In fact, he said "Thanks Mom for reading me my new book" and off he went to play with his trains. It was much easier then I thought UNTIL a half hour later. He comes out of his room, takes a look at me, puts his hands on his hips, cocks his head to the side and with he little eyebrows raised he says " Mommy, can I play with my pee pee"?

Another question, with another answer for another day!

Boys Vs. Girls

Well, the time has come. Ellis is interested in the differences between boys and girls. I feel like this is WAY to early to have this discussion with him. One day last week I was coming out of the bathroom and there was Ellis. He stops me and then pulls down his pants and points to his penis. He asks "mommy...why don't you go potty like this"? Well, I have to say I was not expecting this? I said "well, girls don't have "one of those". The funny thing was I could not even bring myself to say the word penis. I must have a hang-up with word. He then proceeds towards me and says "LET ME SEE"...as his hand is reaching out to pull my pants down. HOLY COW...how did this happen so quickly. I have been more concerned with how he holds a pencil!! Since this little conversation, I have consulted with a few people including the Nurse on staff. I ask her if this is something that I can ignore. She says no way...I look for a compromise and ask how about for another month or so? Of course, I find that I am the one that needs a month to prepare, read and figure out how we are going to discuss this little part of life. I am told by the nurse if I ignore it, he will be the one kid on the play ground pulling his pants down and trying to pull maybe even other girls pants down to see the differences. Well, we know from Ellis' history that he is not shy of pulling his pants down. Case in point..remember when he decided to pull his pants down in Fred Meyer and then peed in the planters. So, here I am with my books from the library, nervously looking and reading them and wondering where is my little boy???

Glacier Springs

Grammy treated us to a great weekend at Glacier Springs. We spent the weekend eating, playing trains, reading books, and sledding....only to be followed up with more eating. The house was great amd either filled with the smell of homemade soup or cookies. Ellis and Miles slept in the same bed which I believe is the first time. They did really well, to my surprise. I thought that we would have a little fight on our hand to get them calmed down. But I think that they had so much activity during the day, they were ready to sleep when it was time. Grammy was queen of sledding and put the rest of us to shame with her power. We attempted to build snowmen but as Miles pointed out they really resembled volcanoes. Pete was the only one that could get the snow to be in a ball.

The Girls